A MOTHER OF A TEENAGE CHILD

               

               In our generation today I know it is hard to deal and understand how the mind of our children works especially the teens. It is important that we will be able to gain the trust of our child.

      How can I gain the trust of my child?  first we as a mother will show them that we trust them.  Take this as an example, your child ask your permission that he will be participating in a school activity and he will be late in going home, tell him nicely that you allow him but with curfew because that will be for his own good.

      What If the child will fail to follow the given agreement? Give him the benefit of the doubt. Listen to his explanation and give your child prejudgement and most importantly see to it that we mothers do not put words on his mouth. As mothers, sometimes we double check if what he is saying is true, so I suggest that we do it secretly so that our child will not be offended by it. And if you discovered that he is lying, confront the child but also see to it that no one is around and there are no other people who are listening.

                    As a mother we most of the time should try to understand our children. Let us always put into consideration their feelings, and sometimes we learn from our children. Try to think the way they think sometimes. Mothers let us not forget that we had been a teenager once so let us remember what we are before. What we don't like our own parents and what is it that we like about our parents before we were at that same age. And we will improvise it in dealing with our teenage child.

                   It is also important that we will learn their language, the new fashion trends in clothing and what are the preferences of our child. What are his habits, hobbies, hangouts everything that a teenager likes to do.

                   Most especially we as moms should always look good  in our appearance. I know our child will have no choice if we are not well dressed, he will have no choice because the fact will still remain that "I am your NANAY for life". And in my honest opinion, are we that insensitive? Do our children deserve this kind of humiliation?